Tips for Parents to Protect Children from Online Predators

While online computer exploration opens a world of possibilities for young people, expanding their horizons and exposing them to different cultures and ways of life, they can be exposed to dangers as they explore the information highway. There are individuals who attempt to sexually exploit children through the use of online services and the Internet.. The following is a list of helpful tips to protect your family.

What Are Signs That Your Child Might Be At Risk On-line?

Your child spends large amounts of time on-line, especially at night.

Most children that fall victim to computer-sex offenders spend large amounts of time on-line, particularly in chat rooms. They may go on-line after dinner and on the weekends. They may be latchkey kids whose parents have told them to stay at home after school. They go on-line to chat with friends, make new friends, pass time, and sometimes look for sexually explicit information. While much of the knowledge and experience gained may be valuable, parents should consider monitoring the amount of time spent on-line.

Children on-line are at the greatest risk during the evening hours. While offenders are on-line around the clock, most work during the day and spend their evenings on-line trying to locate and lure children or seeking pornography.

You find pornography on your child's computer.

Pornography is often used in the sexual victimization of children. Sex offenders often supply their potential victims with pornography as a means of opening sexual discussions and for seduction. Child pornography may be used to show the child victim that sex between children and adults is "normal." Parents should be conscious of the fact that a child may hide the pornographic files on diskettes from them. This may be especially true if the computer is used by other family members.

Your child receives phone calls from men you don't know or is making calls, sometimes long distance, to numbers you don't recognize.

While talking to a child victim on-line is a thrill for a computer-sex offender, it can be very cumbersome. Most want to talk to the children on the telephone. They often engage in "phone sex" with the children and often seek to set up an actual meeting for real sex.

While a child may be hesitant to give out his/her home phone number, the computer-sex offenders will give out theirs. With Caller ID, they can readily find out the child's phone number. Some computer-sex offenders have even obtained toll-free 800 numbers, so that their potential victims can call them without their parents finding out. Others will tell the child to call collect. Both of these methods result in the computer-sex offender being able to find out the child's phone number.

Your child receives mail, gifts, or packages from someone you don't know.

As part of the seduction process, it is common for offenders to send letters, photographs, and all manner of gifts to their potential victims. Computer-sex offenders have even sent plane tickets in order for the child to travel across the country to meet them.

Your child turns the computer monitor off or quickly changes the screen on the monitor when you come into the room.

A child looking at pornographic images or having sexually explicit conversations does not want you to see it on the screen.

Your child becomes withdrawn from the family.

Computer-sex offenders will work very hard at driving a wedge between a child and their family or at exploiting their relationship. They will accentuate any minor problems at home that the child might have. Children may also become withdrawn after sexual victimization.

Your child is using an on-line account belonging to someone else.

Even if you don't subscribe to an on-line service or Internet service, your child may meet an offender while on-line at a friend's house or the library. Most computers come preloaded with on-line and/or Internet software. Computer-sex offenders will sometimes provide potential victims with a computer account for communications with them.

Develop a trusting relationship with your child early
Keep the door of communication open
If you have reason to suspect your child is viewing inappropriate sites, do not overact - approach your son or daughter with respect
Add to online profiles that you monitor your child’s use of the Internet
Keep your computers in heavy traffic areas in your home
Know your children’s online friends
Use a web-based Internet filter for your computer.
Check CD’s, floppy and zip disks
Check History Files often
Spend time with your child as they surf the Internet
Ask your child to show you what IM (Instant messaging) looks like
Spend time with your child on-line, and have them teach you about their favorite on-line destinations
Get to know and use "Parental Controls."
Always maintain access to your child’s on-line account, and randomly check his or her account
Teach your child about responsible use of the resources on the Internet
Find out what safeguards are used at your child’s school, the public library and at the homes of your child’s friends. These are all places, outside your supervision, where a child could encounter an on-line predator
Instruct your child NEVER to arrange face-to-face meetings with someone they met on-line and NOT to respond to messages or bulletin board postings that are suggestive, obscene, belligerent or harassing
Tell your child to NEVER give out identifying information such as name, address, school name or telephone number to people they don’t know
Explain to your child to NEVER post pictures of them on the Internet – let them know this has seriously harmed other children
Teach your child to come and get you when they accessed something on the Internet that makes them feel uncomfortable, no matter what it is
Teach your child that the Internet is a good source for educational, recreational and creative searches, but has intentional landmines placed that could hurt them